Do any of you feel bored in your relaishonships?

Posted on May 31st, 2009 by admin in Moody Gardens

My boyfreind is a lovely, kind great guy and hes very passionate about music and his poetry and 'other things' but the down side to this is, he gets angry and moody too and he stressess a lot about stuff that in a week is getting sorted. He very rarely wants to go out with me claiming he doesnt have the money or hes tired and this is bothereing me. Im bored. I want him to want to just do something mad or different every once in a while. When the sun cma eout last week i was like lets go have a drink in the garden(cos we have a gorgoeus big garden) and he just wants to stay in watch dvd's. Anyone else bored? Weve only been togetehr 10 months!
Thing that makes it worse is,i dont have many mates where i live cos ive moved a lot and the mates i do have are men which makes things difficult cos he gets insecure and i dotn want him to feel like that so i dont meet up with them. But i guess the point is, he wont come out with me. Another example- i want him to come visit my parents in the summer cos they live 200miles away and i never see them and i want to show him around where im from- the beached are fab, but he doesnt want to come! well annoyed!
Another note- my ex(1st love) was a cheat and liar and he hurt me, so cos my current bf is a great guy i guess im holding onto him cos im not sure i will meet another great guy again.
Its not about the spark, its about wanting to him to just be a bit happier and maybe experience life with me. I left uni 2 years ago and i regretted not living my life then cos was with my ex. Now, i realize that life is about living and experiencing things and having fun, not just about work. You only live once. I want to enjoy my youth. My bf is currently stressing about losing me, he is worried that i will find someone else cos ive told him im bored. Hopefully this will open his eyes.

Oh buddy!! i answered the right question! My husband and I had this problem about a year ago. I was so very bored. We never went out, we weren't having sex enough, all we did was sit around the house and watch TV. I told him that I had a serious problem that I needed to talk to him about. I proceeded to tell him that I was bored with our relationship and if things didn't change our marriage was going to be tough. He took what I said seriously and we talked about it for hours,

Things did change for us after that and I have been much happier since. We get a babysitter and go out now, we have a great sex life, and we actually do a lot more than sit around the house. You are just going to have to spill your guts out!!

Face it, a good relationship needs work and good communication.

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25 Responses to “Do any of you feel bored in your relaishonships?”

  1. Hayley Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 4:46 am

    Yes, Yes, yes, I am the same, mine gets moody and never wants to go any where and all i wanna do is go get a drink or have dinner with a group of people but he hates being around people, so if yo ulove him, you just have go do stuff on your own or find someone else to have fun with..
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  2. Peta Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 5:26 am

    Tell him that even if he doesn't want to do these things, that you do. He needs to meet you halfway. I do a lot of things with my husband because he wants to them and I don't really care, but I go for his sake. He does the same for me. If you boyfriend doesn't compromise to make you happy then I would end it, he is going to be selfish all his life.

    If he doesn't mind you going with others them just go with friends and do your own thing. You don't have to be with him all the time.
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  3. Kevin Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 5:51 am

    I'm bored of being alone lol. I'd gladly welcome relationship boredom for awhile.
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  4. al4kitten1 Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 6:34 am

    Wow sounds like you want to spice things up. I say go for it ask him if he wants to do things if he says no good and do these things by yourself. You deserve a good time. Yes I have been bored in a relationship and that's what I did he caught on and started to spend more time with me doing things.
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  5. LIPPS Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 6:58 am

    Sorry to say this dear, but it won't get any better with time. You might as well go ahead and cut your losses now and get the h*ll out of there. If he's lazy now, I promise you that it'll only get worse.
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    Living this life myself……

  6. HOT BELFAST Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 7:07 am

    Yea I am a little too, I guess its just something you go thru from time to time.

    Nice pic btw
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  7. miss g Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 7:21 am

    Seems to me like you two live in completely different worlds. You're the outdoor type and he's the indoor type. Reminds me a lot of my parents, really. So I totally understand your situation. I think if you feel that there's a guy out there who could bring the best out of you, you might want to consider your current relationship…
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  8. Proud ♥ Mary Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 7:40 am

    He sounds like a nice guy, but stressed about a lot of things. Does his work stress him out ?

    Explain to him that you like to take a break from things and enjoy some quality time together . Explain about his moodiness and how he needs to relax once in a while.

    Or you can just leave him in his little cave until he wants to come out on his own .
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    good luck with that ….

  9. lady di Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 7:58 am

    how does incompatible or taking you for granted sound? im not sure which but seems like either of the two is the problem.
    If hes happy being miserable then u need to move on.
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  10. kelly e Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 8:44 am

    am bored with my marriage been with him for 11 yrs now and nothing exciting is happening either hes always tired coz he works nites and by weekend hes fit for nothing so ur not on ur own there hope things get better for ya
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  11. Bexs Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 8:50 am

    You will find that a lot of men (not all) are a little bit unsociable – they like thier home comforts and that's that. I just get on with things with my friends. The problem is, if you nag them, they may do whatever you want to "shut you up" but really, you know they are just doing it because you went on and on so, nobody is happy!
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  12. BamBam Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 9:19 am

    Oh buddy!! i answered the right question! My husband and I had this problem about a year ago. I was so very bored. We never went out, we weren't having sex enough, all we did was sit around the house and watch TV. I told him that I had a serious problem that I needed to talk to him about. I proceeded to tell him that I was bored with our relationship and if things didn't change our marriage was going to be tough. He took what I said seriously and we talked about it for hours,

    Things did change for us after that and I have been much happier since. We get a babysitter and go out now, we have a great sex life, and we actually do a lot more than sit around the house. You are just going to have to spill your guts out!!

    Face it, a good relationship needs work and good communication.
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  13. Iam like a bird.. Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 10:09 am

    yup, with every of them I have dated! 4 monts or less!
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  14. P S Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 10:34 am

    When he can't read & respect your desires or expectations how he can be your boy friend ? He is only a time pass so you feel bored in relationship. Look for someone else WHO can access your needs/ desires/ expectations before you say, for whom you should be his only desire & goal.
    You are so sweet that every body will be mad for you.
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  15. Roger The Alien Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 10:47 am

    You are a very pretty girl. All I can think is that your boyfriend is mad.

    xxR
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  16. finch Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 10:58 am

    For something to last you need to enjoy doing at least a few things together. He might be a great guy, there are lots of them out there, but he may just not be the great guy for you? Maybe he would suit someone a bit more shy and home-loving. Try going out with your mates and leaving him to do the things he enjoys. If you can't find anything that you can share, you need to do some serious thinking!
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  17. ted15washburn Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 11:24 am

    I think you shouldn't listen to your feelings, rather you should appeal to your intellect. Relationships that are simply fueled by one's emotions tend to break apart and that is because feelings dont last. You don't expect to feel the same excitement you felt with your boyfriend when you were still young lovers when you're already 50 years old!

    That's the problem today! People think great relationships are feeling based (when things are fun and exciting the relationship is great! BUT NO!). It's true that true love is at first sparked by infatuation, but I tell you true love is more of a process of the intellect than emotion!

    Also, just a thing… Guys aren't that expressive compared with girls who want to talk. They'd rather read the newspaper than talk, but that doesn't mean they don't want their love's company. To guys, the girl's company means a lot. So if you're boyfriend doesn't really want to talk to you sometimes, try to understand it as a part of the nature of men.

    :)
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  18. jffry_arneson Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 12:05 pm

    yes sometimes i too get bored seems like i am always trying to fix a crisis in this gals life whether its hers or someone in her familys life.perhaps its time BOTH of us find someone that makes our hearts happy.
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  19. barz Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 12:43 pm

    oh you poor thing i have the same prob with my lady so i said stuff it i joined some dating sites and i am having a lot fun now.do something now or one day later in years to come you will wish that you had.good luck
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  20. Trace Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 12:49 pm

    wow sounds like my boyfriend and the way i feel sometimes…..tell you what thought ive been out and tasted a few men and found that the only one i wanna be with is him.
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  21. teenatld_32 Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 1:00 pm

    Me and my husband been together for 14 years and i am really bored, he never wants to go no where but just sit around or be on the computer. So i would tell your boyfriend how you feel and if he don't want to change then i would get out because u don't want to be with him down the road with 5 kids and still be bored like me.
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  22. Turkey_Bird Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 1:10 pm

    If he is the one that you could see yourself with in 50 years…………ask yourself that question……….is he a friend to you?……….could you see yourself sitting next to him reading the paper and drinking coffee in the far future? Anyway, I have been with my husband for 7 years and there are times (months at a time) that I am bored of our relationship and would just like to go out and do something every now and again, but I look at the bigger picture and realize that he is my very best friend and that he has so many good qualities that some of the other stuff that is aggrevating me is'nt really that important………..so, ask yourself is he worth compromising with? and if you do get another boyfriend and he might do some of the things that you would like for this boyfriend to do, but will he have some of the other really good qualities that this boyfriend has? sometimes when you trade out…..you don't get what you were hoping for. With that said it is up to you and you do deserve to be happy and get to do the things that you want to do because it is your right as a woman to go out on the town and have a fun for an evening every now and again. Also, communication works for us – just sitting and talking things out about our differences because there are lots of them – that's where the best friend thing comes in….I hope this helps.
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  23. pwwatson8888 Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 1:56 pm

    Your boyfriend is self absorbed and myopic. Tell him if he will not share himself with you then you will go and find someone who wants to live their lives sharing the things that matter to you.
    Hard but it beats the heck out of being bitter and turning to drink or tawdry affairs on the side. Good luck waking him up.
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  24. Zaksta Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 2:42 pm

    babes you need a combination of the two, you seem to have gone from one extreme to the other. Ultimately you need to be happy and if he is not making you happy then you need to move on.
    Relationships do need work to make them successful but that takes two and if he is not compromising after such a short time when you should still be in the "honeymoon" period it does not bode well for the long term. I mean why can't he go to see your parents etc – he may not really want to, but the fact that it would make you happy should be enough to make him move his ar*e.
    Remember it takes two and if it is only you putting effort in it will not work, so get rid, have a good summer visiting your parents etc and then start afresh with someone new when you get back.
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  25. alan h Says:
    June 1st, 2009 at 3:24 pm

    If you arte boreed already, the problem may lie more in you than in him. You needcto discuss this rationally, and if no outcome, then probably call it a day until youi are more ready
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